Definition of casual dating
But guys like Rob and Will showed me that sometimes relationships that are purely sexual, totally fly-by-night couplings can be incredibly exciting and fun.
The fact that I’ve had such a large number of casual flings has allowed me to appreciate the different kinds of partnerships that exist out there — and that’s invaluable to me.
So, sure, by a lot of people’s standards, I haven’t been in that many “serious” relationships.
But I’ve had a lot of experiences with partnership that informed the rest of my life in ways that more “serious” situations might not have. Amstel Light himself taught me something, even though we only went on two dates: He inadvertently showed me that, for me, my lack of long-term boyfriends has nothing to do with who I am as a partner. After being raised on a steady diet of Disney movies, I expected to meet someone and fall passionately in love — but wound up collapsing under the pressures of modern dating.
Luckily, I eventually realized that there's no "right" way to date, and that I need to find happiness within myself, no partner needed.
No, that definition is reserved for the word asshole.All in all, these “serious” relationships taught me little lessons about what I was actually looking for.But I realized (after the second glass of contemplative wine) that when people asked me about past relationships, these weren’t the partners I thought of.And my most recent boyfriend, Reed*, was a guy I knew in high school, but didn’t date until I was 23.He taught me that just because a guy is seemingly nice, it doesn’t mean that you’re meant to be together.
Alex* in college was a total narcissist who wound up blaming me for our breakup, even though he was withholding and cold.