My boyfriend goes on dating websites
Addressing the Active Profile Issue with Tact First off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.
You decided to meet and on your first date things go great.
We have a great time together and he calls every night to chat or say goodnight.
I am really interested in him and I get the feeling that he feels the same way.
Once you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, I recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period.
Try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him.
I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.